THE ATENTION SEEKERS

THE ATENTION SEEKERS ATTENTION SEEKERS ARE THE FASCINATING, VIVID PERSONATIES OF THE RELATIONSHIP WHEEL. OFTEN INCREDIBLY CREATIVE, THEY ALWAYS HAVE AN ADEA OR A PROJECT. THESE ARE THE GREAT ACHIEVERS OF PERSONALTY TYPES. BECAUSE THEY ARE EX (TREMELY GOOD AT FOCUSING ON WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO THEM.

THEY ARE GOOD ATTRACTING OTHERS TELLTALE / RIVELATORE/ SIGNS OF AN ATTENTION SEEKERS – YOU ARE BRILLANT, HIGHLY FOCUSED, AND VERY CREATIVE – OTHERS ARE DROWN TO YOUR ENERGY AND UNDERTAKINGS – YOU ARE CONCERNED WITH HOW OTHERS SEE YOU – YOU ARE A NUMBER OF PEOPLE WHO GATHER AROUND YOU – YOU HAVE DIFFICULTY LISTENING, EMPATHIZING, OR SUPPORTING
ORTHERS WHEN THEY HAVE PROBLEMS – YOU HAVE TROUBLE HANDLING CRITICISM – YOU FEEL LIKE CAN NEVER GET ENOUGH PRAISE OR SUPPORT DISTINGUISHING CARACTERISTICS OF ARTTENTION SEEKERS • VERY GOOD AT SEEING HIM-OR HERSELF AND NOT NEARLY AS GOOD AT SEEING OTHERS • HAVE TROUBLE WITH EMPATHY, THAT SPESCIAL QUALITY OF HUMAN INTERACTION OF “FEELING FOR” ANOTHER PERSON • ATTENTION SEEKERS PROJECT THAT THEY ARE DESERVING AND SELF-CONFIDENT

• ARE ALSO GOOD AT COMPLAINING ABOUT OTHERS, PARTICOLARLY ABOUT HOW OTHERS HAVE FAILD THEM • ATTENTION SEEKERS ARE EMOTIONALY FRAGILE • ATTENTION SEEKERS IDENTIFY WITH THEIR ACHIEVEMENTS RATHER THAN WITH THEI SPIRITS

THE DIFFERENT B/T AN ATTENTION SEEKERS AND EVERYONE ELSE – THE ATTENTION SEEKERS IS WILLING TO LIVE SELF-FOCUS, WHILE THE REST OF US ONLY NEED TO VIST THER.

WHAT ATTENTION SEEKESR TO LEARN ABOUT RELATIONSHIP – LISTEN ATENTION SEEKERS WILL START JIONING IN THE PLEASURES OF RELATIONSHIP WHEN THEY LEARN TO LISEN, NOT TO THE ANSWERS THAT ARE FOCUSED ON THEMSELVES, BUT TO THE INFORMATION THAT REBEALS WHO OTHERS PEOPLE ARE. – ASK QUESTINS B/C OF ENDLESSLY LOOKING AT THEMSELVES AND HAVING EVERYBODY ELSE LOOK AT THEM, THE ATTENTION SEEKERS WORLD GROWS SMALLER AND SMALLER. – RESPOND

THE EARLY YEARS

If a child lives with criticism . . . s/he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility . . .  s/he learns to fight.

If a child lives with fear . . .  s/he learns to be apprehensive.

If a child lives with jealousy. . . .s/he learns to feel guilt…

If a child lives with encouragements/he learns to be confident.

If a child lives with praise . . . s/he learns to be appreciative.

If a child lives with approval . . . s/he learns to like her/himself…

If a child lives with security . . .  s/he learns to trust in her/himself and others.

If a child lives with friendliness . . . s/he learns the world is a nice place in which to live.

SELF FORGIVENSS

What is self‑forgiveness?

Self‑forgiving is:

–           Accepting yourself as a human who has faults and makes mistakes.

–           Letting go of self anger for your past failures, errors, and mistakes.

–           No longer needing penance, sorrow, and regret over a grievous, self‑inflicted, personal offense.

–           The act of self love after you have admitted your failure, mistake, or misdeed.

–           The spiritual self healing of your heart by calming self rejection, quieting the sense of failure, and lightening the burden of guilt.

–           The act of letting go of the need to work so hard to make up for your past offenses.

Negative consequences of the absence of self‑forgiveness

In the absence of self forgiveness, you run the risk of:

–           Unresolved hurt, pain, and suffering from self‑destructive behaviours.

–           Unresolved guilt and remorse for self‑inflicted offenses.

–           Chronically seeking revenge and paybacks toward yourself.

–           Being caught up in unresolved self anger, self hatred and self blaming.

–           Defensive and distant behaviour with others.

–           Pessimism, negativity, and non‑growth-oriented behaviour.

–           Having a festering wound that never allows the revitalization of self healing.

–           Fear over making new mistakes or of having the old mistakes revealed.

–           Being overwhelmed by fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of non approval, low self‑esteem, and low self worth.

Signs of the absence of self‑forgiveness

Lack of self forgiveness can result in:

–           A loss of love for yourself.

–           Indifference toward yourself and your needs.

–           An emotional vacuum in which little or no emotions are shown or shared.

–           Chronic attacks or angry outbursts against self.

–           Disrespectful treatment of self.

–           Self‑destructive behaviours.

–           Self‑pitying.

–           Chronic recalling and reminding of past failures, mistakes, errors, and offenses.

–           Suspicions about others’ motives, behaviours, attitudes, and beliefs when they are accepting of you.

–           Chronic depression.

–           Chronic hostility, sarcasm, and cynicism.

–           Self name calling, belittling, and self demeaning behaviours.

–           Unwillingness to change and/or unwillingness to seek the help necessary to change.

–           Resistance to doing what is necessary to heal within and recover from low self‑esteem.

WHAT IS RISK TAKING?

What is risk taking?

Risk Taking is Free

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool,

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental,

To reach out for another is to risk involvement,

To expose feelings is to risk exposing true self,

To place your ideas, your dreams before the crowd is to risk their loss,

To love is to risk not being loved in return,

To live is to risk dying,

To hope is to risk despair,

To try is to risk failure,

But risk must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, and is nothing.

He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, live.

Chained by his certitudes, he is a slave, he has forfeited freedom.

Only a person who risks ‑ is free.

– Author unknown