What is self‑forgiveness?
– Accepting yourself as a human who has faults and makes mistakes.
– Letting go of self anger for your past failures, errors, and mistakes.
– No longer needing penance, sorrow, and regret over a grievous, self‑inflicted, personal offense.
– The act of self love after you have admitted your failure, mistake, or misdeed.
– The spiritual self healing of your heart by calming self rejection, quieting the sense of failure, and lightening the burden of guilt.
– The act of letting go of the need to work so hard to make up for your past offenses.
Negative consequences of the absence of self‑forgiveness
In the absence of self forgiveness, you run the risk of:
– Unresolved hurt, pain, and suffering from self‑destructive behaviours.
– Unresolved guilt and remorse for self‑inflicted offenses.
– Chronically seeking revenge and paybacks toward yourself.
– Being caught up in unresolved self anger, self hatred and self blaming.
– Defensive and distant behaviour with others.
– Pessimism, negativity, and non‑growth-oriented behaviour.
– Having a festering wound that never allows the revitalization of self healing.
– Fear over making new mistakes or of having the old mistakes revealed.
– Being overwhelmed by fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of non approval, low self‑esteem, and low self worth.
Signs of the absence of self‑forgiveness
Lack of self forgiveness can result in:
– A loss of love for yourself.
– Indifference toward yourself and your needs.
– An emotional vacuum in which little or no emotions are shown or shared.
– Chronic attacks or angry outbursts against self.
– Disrespectful treatment of self.
– Self‑destructive behaviours.
– Chronic recalling and reminding of past failures, mistakes, errors, and offenses.
– Suspicions about others’ motives, behaviours, attitudes, and beliefs when they are accepting of you.
– Chronic depression.
– Chronic hostility, sarcasm, and cynicism.
– Self name calling, belittling, and self demeaning behaviours.
– Unwillingness to change and/or unwillingness to seek the help necessary to change.
– Resistance to doing what is necessary to heal within and recover from low self‑esteem.