What is self‑forgiveness?
Self‑forgiving is:
– Accepting
yourself as a human who has faults and makes mistakes.
– Letting
go of self anger for your past failures, errors, and mistakes.
– No
longer needing penance, sorrow, and regret over a grievous, self‑inflicted,
personal offense.
– The
act of self love after you have admitted your failure, mistake, or misdeed.
– The
spiritual self healing of your heart by calming self rejection, quieting the
sense of failure, and lightening the burden of guilt.
– The
act of letting go of the need to work so hard to make up for your past
offenses.
Negative consequences of the absence of self‑forgiveness
In the absence of self forgiveness, you run the
risk of:
– Unresolved
hurt, pain, and suffering from self‑destructive behaviours.
– Unresolved
guilt and remorse for self‑inflicted offenses.
– Chronically
seeking revenge and paybacks toward yourself.
– Being
caught up in unresolved self anger, self hatred and self blaming.
– Defensive
and distant behaviour with others.
– Pessimism,
negativity, and non‑growth-oriented behaviour.
– Having
a festering wound that never allows the revitalization of self healing.
– Fear
over making new mistakes or of having the old mistakes revealed.
– Being
overwhelmed by fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of non approval, low
self‑esteem, and low self worth.
Signs of the absence of self‑forgiveness
Lack of self forgiveness can result in:
– A
loss of love for yourself.
– Indifference
toward yourself and your needs.
– An
emotional vacuum in which little or no emotions are shown or shared.
– Chronic
attacks or angry outbursts against self.
– Disrespectful
treatment of self.
– Self‑destructive
behaviours.
– Self‑pitying.
– Chronic
recalling and reminding of past failures, mistakes, errors, and offenses.
– Suspicions
about others’ motives, behaviours, attitudes, and beliefs when they are
accepting of you.
– Chronic
depression.
– Chronic
hostility, sarcasm, and cynicism.
– Self
name calling, belittling, and self demeaning behaviours.
– Unwillingness
to change and/or unwillingness to seek the help necessary to change.
– Resistance
to doing what is necessary to heal within and recover from low self‑esteem.